Right, Wrong Or Understandable. You Decide.
Out of curiosity, how many of you out there would start dating someone barely a month after your spouse died suddenly? Now, I don’t know the full story to all this and probably never will. All of this information was gathered from both of their personal blogs, and as we all know, not everything that is personal is mentioned to the public. All I know is they were married for 3 years, trying to have kids and they were in the middle of building a new home. There wasn’t any mention of troubles in the marriage, however, she was known to have bouts of depression (for whatever reason).
Rumor has it she committed suicide. When he announced the news of her death, he never mentioned how she died or even gave a hint. I found out how through a group blog she was a part of. He hasn’t done a whole lot of talking about her since she passed either and it seems his friends are supporting the whole dating thing. I also read on his blog that he started crushing on New Girl a month before his wife died and shortly after her death, told his friends that he would like to go on a date with New Girl. The date happened a month after his wife’s death. New Girl also knew his wife and blogged a little about her death.
Now, I am a tad confused not knowing the whole story, but personally I think dating someone that soon after is a little odd. It’s not like this was just a break-up, a divorce or something expected. Even if it was expected, give yourself some time to heal and deal with what happened. Now, I know there is the whole “fall down, get back up” thing, or all the other cliches that come with tragedy, but please. Whatever happened to the respect aspect of it all? I’m not saying that he shouldn’t date period, just give yourself a few months. Don’t fall under the pressure of rejoining the ‘real world’ just because everyone else sick of seeing you grieve. Believe me, I was there and it sucked. Needless to say, those people aren’t your friends if they can’t be bothered to hold you up for once and for however long you need.
I could go on for a while about this one, but will save it for another time.Now, I am trying to not pass judgment because I really don’t know what family life was like and what happened behind closed doors. It’s just that something doesn’t sit right with me. Maybe her suicide was a weight lifted off his shoulders? Maybe her depression was difficult to live with?
The people in her group made her sound like she was a great friend, giving, caring, super talented, very much loved and in love.
I am interested in hearing what the rest of you think. If you’ve been through something similar, what did you do? I won’t even ask ‘what would you do’ because in all fairness, it’s not something that can be answered until it happens. You can say one thing now and have it be something completely different once that time comes.
We will be approaching the second anniversary of her Death in February and not long after that, Boy and New Girl will be married.